Wanting What You Don’t Have
You see your own flaws–real or imagined–and want something different. Short people tend to want to be tall. People with curly hair tend to want straight hair. People want to be thinner. You may want your neighbor’s car, house, or just their money. You want what you don’t have.
The Old Testament/Tanakh actually agrees that it is in our nature to want. In fact, there are verses that tell people to be careful with what they want and how much they want it. Most of us know these as the Ten Commandments. One of these commands tells us not to covet. In Exodus 20:17 (KJV), it says:
Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s house, neither shalt thou covet thy neighbor’s wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, his ox, or his ass, or any thing that is thy neighbor’s.
More verses on this topic are Deuteronomy 5:21 and Proverbs 21:26. There are other verses, so feel free to look them up if you feel so inclined.
From a psychological standpoint, specifically psychoanalytic, there is a part of us that controls what we want. The id produces all of our desires. It has unlimited wants, but the ego tries to balance the id with the superego.
People tend to want to look different. What is really going to benefit you is for you to be happy with yourself. Having such an insecurity is not good for you. Be happy with yourself; know that you are beautiful. You can still want to look different, but learn to be happy with your current looks before you change them.
We will always want something that we don’t have. It is an inescapable part of human nature. Through our morals, we learn that it is better to control it. It can grow into a horrible coveting, so we fight it. This is part of the reason why we are taught to be charitable and selfless. We want what we don’t have. Learn to be happy with what you do have, then you may look at what you want.
“As soon as you stop wanting something, you get it.” ~ Andy Warhol